With apologies to the great Tori Amos (lyrics here)……
This is a song that “spoke” to me all these years.
And now I know why.
Because I, too, was silent all these years. (Read here about how I have been working on my voice…)
And I am just thankful that “all these years” wasn’t my whole life. Because waaaayyyyy too many people (women especially, I daresay) lose their voices. Or become wives, and mothers, and CEOs and whatever else before they ever even discover this voice. And all too often, it dies. A really crappy death.
Finding my voice has been — is — a process and an experience that has radically changed my life in many ways.
Finding my voice and then declaring to anyone who will listen that I have found it puts a whole heckuva lot of pressure on me.
Because I can’t go back.
And sometimes going back to that comfort zone, no matter how un-brilliant it may be, is tempting. Because it’s easier to not get hurt over there. And it’s easier to make excuses over there. And to pretend it’s OK to be mediocre.
But the glory is in the discomfort. It’s in the place where you feel so scared you might pee in your pants but you do it anyway. And it’s in what happens to you after you risk the peeing (which almost never happens) and come out strong and safe and ready for the next challenge on the other side.
So I have some requests of you: If you are reading this, you are either interested in what I have to say or you are my friend/family member being forced to read this (or you are both). So you have no choice, however you slice it.
- Think about something that is bugging the you-know-what out of you right now. Could be a person, a goal that’s not happening or something that is frustrating you to no end.
- Think about what you can do RIGHT NOW to change the situation.
- Now go over all the reasons/objections to this change. Listen to your Ego telling you how you can’t/won’t/don’t know how to fix it or get out of it or move on. Think about what really scares, shocks, annoys and moves you (good or bad) about this situation.
- Now (and you may need to do this out loud and/or in front of a mirror. Really awkward, trust me) say GOODBYE to that cr*p. And fix it. And before you do, tell someone or someones what you are going to do. Declare it to me if you want. Make yourself accountable and DO IT.
Because as much as I love Tori Amos, and probably wish I could sing like her and maybe even look like her, I don’t want to be Silent All These Years…not anymore.
And I don’t want you to be either.
…Hey but I don’t care
I said sometimes
I hear my voice
And it’s been here
Silent All These…
Years go by
Will I still be waiting
For somebody else to understand
Years go by
If I’m stripped of my beauty
And the orange clouds
Raining in head
Years go by
Will I choke on my tears
Till finally there is nothing left
One more casualty
You know we’re too easy Easy Easy
Ok enough reading….go make it happen. Only you can. Chop, chop….the clock is ticking…
Oh, and I know you will do GREAT. If you keep shining only to yourself, you are really depriving the rest of us. And I don’t like to be deprived.