These things I know:
Change is good.
Fear is fine, too. (As long as it doesn’t stop you.)
Ups and downs are inevitable. Not always fun. But inevitable.
Nothing is perfect. Including life. What is perfect is the control you have over how you react and how you soldier on and how you live in spite of what happens or doesn’t happen.
I have been on a little bit of a roller coaster lately.
Maybe a lot of a roller coaster lately.
I’m OK with the roller-coaster-ness of life. Really, I am.
What’s hard for me is the illusion I sometimes get under that everything is perfect, no worries, there is no roller-coaster-ness in this girl’s future. In other words, I kind of convince myself that I’m immune to really painful or tough or hard emotions.
Lots of super-seemingly-in-control SuperWomen like myself do this, apparently.
So, what I’m working on is not avoiding the roller coaster….impossible (and likely boring too!). But on knowing there is always a roller coaster around the proverbial corner — even the most idyllic of corners. And on knowing in my bones that I have the tools and the mojo to deal with the roller coaster, to finish the ride, stand up, dust off my britches and get in line for the next adventure.
Reminds me of the great movie “Parenthood.” The grandmother, who everyone just tolerates and smiles at, walks in to Steve Martin’s character in the kitchen and tells him and wife, played by Mary Steenburgen, about the time that “Grandpa” took her on a roller coaster.
She tells them she was sick from the up down, up down. I love what she says to the couple so stressed-out with the ups and downs of child-rearing, marriage and just everyday life:
“It was just interesting to me that a ride could make me so frightened, so scared, so sick, so excited and so thrilled all together,” she says. “Some didn’t like it. They went on the merry-go-round. That just goes around. Nothing. I like the roller coaster. You get more out of it.”
Me too, Grandma, I like the roller coaster too. You do get more out of it.