My Victim Story

Allison Nazarian Healing, No More B.S., Real Life

<– I spent part of this weekend reading this book about verbal abuse.  (How’s that for a party weekend?!) I didn’t expect to be writing about this publicly, at least not now, probably not ever. But this morning as I walked my dog in the blackness of 6am, a steady voice from somewhere, nowhere, I don’t know where, said clearly, …

Learning From People Who Suck At Teaching

Allison Nazarian Real Life, There, I Said It, Truth

“We cannot share that which we do not have.” This quote came to me in an email yesterday and it hit home. I started to think about the seemingly never-ending parade of guides and gurus and coaches and “I have your answer” people out there promising to share their secrets and divulge what they know to you. I wonder how …

Noisy

Allison Nazarian Life Lessons, Real Life, There, I Said It

Most people are afraid of that which is not noise. Afraid of the stillness. Of silence. Of their own thoughts. Of remembering. Of coming to terms. Of facing the truth without the help of a magic pill or a handy distraction. Most people are afraid of life beyond the reality shows and the radio shows and the music and the …

Progress That Counts

Allison Nazarian Life Lessons, Real Life, The Life of Allison

Too many of us, myself included, go around thinking we aren’t making progress, that we aren’t “getting anywhere.” But you know what? You — yes, YOU — have made a lot of progress. Sure, progress can feel slow and painstaking and sometimes non-existent, but it is nonetheless progress.You may have a bad day (or days) and sometimes you may feel …

It Is Time

Allison Nazarian Inspiration, Real Life, Share Your Story, The Life of Allison

This morning I tried to weasel out of my writing commitment. But my honey called me on it. Well, he didn’t have to. I called myself on it. The conversation went something like this: Me: Let’s go out to breakfast, wouldn’t that be fun!? Him: Sure. Me: How about we go right now!? Him: After your morning post, right? Me/My …

Hanging On To What’s Not There

Allison Nazarian Life Lessons, Living Life, Real Life

Recent events and activities have taught me something about myself that was surprising, to say the least, and jarring, to be more accurate. That “something” is along the lines of this: I hang on to a lot of shit. I don’t mean just the emotional stuff, which is a whole other ball of mess. I mean the stuff stuff: Papers, …

Nothing To Write

Allison Nazarian Inspiration, Living Life, Real Life

It is possible that today I have nothing to write. But I have to have something to write because of the commitment I made to write every (week)day. Here’s what I thought of writing: 1) I’ve been seeing the same theme lately. Prospective clients telling me they want to hire me because next year will be “their” year. Friends who …

Stuff

Allison Nazarian Life Lessons, Real Life

I have learned that getting rid of stuff is a kind of therapy for me. This can be a good thing, when it comes to having uncluttered spaces in my home. Most of my closets are a pleasure to look at (and those that aren’t are soon whipped into shape). My files are in order, and old clothes are promptly …