Thinking About Not Writing

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I started this “little writing experiment” back in November.

I’ve written and posted to this blog every single weekday since then. No matter what.Over 50,000 words, as a matter of fact.

And my life has changed since I started. A lot. All for the better. (I talk about it a little here and started the experiment a few weeks before this.)

I’ve detached from some long-standing and painful entanglements. I’ve moved on from things I cannot change (and on which I’d spent tons of time and emotional energy trying to do just that). I have brought in experts and professionals to help and lead me in areas that need to be resolved and that cannot be resolved by me alone. In my business, I have connected with amazing new clients on equally amazing new projects. I am starting some new significant ghostwriting work. I am working on my own book proposal for a book I have been putting off for 15 years. My love life is amazing. I am happier, calmer, more at peace.

These things take commitment. Time. Faith in that which I cannot see or touch….yet. They sometimes also take money. Strength when I question whether I am on the right track. Trust when there aren’t a ton of signs that this is indeed the right path.  I have learned that I have to stick with something in order for it to actually work. It isn’t always easy, especially on tough days. And I have had plenty of those. Most of us have.

Would these things have happened had I not been writing to this blog every day? Maybe.

What does any of this have to do with writing? 

Well, I am considering changing things up. The every-day writing is a non-negotiable. My soul needs this. Period. But I don’t know that I have to post to this blog every day. Because then it becomes about a lot of additional, mostly external things. The soul part may be getting lost. I wonder if the posting is for me or for my ego? And once I go down that slippery slope of looking to the outside for validation, attention or feedback – -well, then, the whole point of my experiment is lost.

The thing is, I know that if you are reading this, you love me and you love what I write. I know, I live in your head and write about it here :) I just may write about it here less. This blog should not be about measuring or gauging what people think about me. I know that is not the norm in the blog world – most people are glued to their stats, traffic, etc. But that isn’t me. And that is a waste of time and energy for me. It makes me dislike the process, and focus on what is in actuality not important to me at all.

I wanted to see if I could do it. And I did it. And the results have been far more incredible than I could have imagined.

So, there you have it. I won’t/can’t ever stop writing. But I may write less here. I am returning to my own internal commitment to “think less, write more” and to “do more, say less.” And by “less,” I mean not here in this space every single day.

That is all.

 

Allison Nazarian

Copywriter | Ghostwriter | Author | Writing Seminars | Teacher | And…MOM

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  • Amy

    I have read this. I do love you. And boy, do I hear you in this question… this blog-don’t-blog dilemma. Just wanted you to know that. I know that you will make the choice that honors your writing – and you. :

    • http://loveyourmessbook.com Allison Nazarian

       Thank you, Amy! I need to bring the focus back to the internal. The external is very distracting and noisy for me. And subversive, too.
      xx
      P.S. Disqus never allows me to “whitelist” you for comments. I am sorry, I don’t know why!

  • ginny sheen

    Funny (as in interesting) that you posted this today. Truly–yesterday I was reading something you posted, and was thinking about how great it was that you had done so much with your writing (and your life, but I don’t get to see that anymore). At one point, I remember you putting together your home office, and then looking beyond that to outside commercial space. At the time, and since, I rooted for you to be one of the not-so-many-women-at-the-time to succeed at their own small businesses outside of retail sales. Well, I just don’t do that anymore. Period. Exclamation point. Because you’ve done it. You’ve worked long, hard and smart. Take a few minutes, and then take a bow–a very hard earned and well deserved bow. I’ve never been a “gushy” person, nor have I ever been easily impressed. I still don’t gush, but I sure as shit am impressed! Now take another bow. Not because I’m impressed, but because you are so impressive a writer.

    • http://loveyourmessbook.com Allison Nazarian

       Ginny, thank you for your kind words.

      That’s really all I can say. Thank you!

  • http://www.thevirtualasst.com Michelle Mangen

    I’m glad you started the “experiment” —- you know I don’t comment often (here) but I read every post you write. And some hit my FB wall :)

    • http://loveyourmessbook.com Allison Nazarian

      Thank you, Love :)

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